This past week has been one of highs and lows and most of them concern Hope. Hope, as most of you know is 13 with severe cerebral palsy; she is non-verbal and totally wheelchair dependent.
The first 'low' was on Wednesday when I had a call from school saying that somehow they had missed feeding her in the morning. It was discovered at 2.30pm when they went to give her her pm feed. It caused a lot of emotions! Next came a meeting with the council re the respite provision she receives (all 39 families were invited 5 attended); I had been waiting for this as there is less money and a lot more children needing to access the service. It came as no surprise to hear they were setting the standard as 28 nights and, if I understood it correctly, never more than 4 nights together. Hope currently receives 37 nights---10 months at 3 nights and a 7 night break in the summer holidays. The harrowing low was watching some of the programme about abuse in a care home. I have 3 children that will need on going care.
I sat and listened to people saying they can imagine what our lives, as parents of special needs kids, are like---NO you can't if you are not a special needs parent! Even then it is very hard unless you have spent at least a week in someone else's shoes to fully appreciate our lives. We regularly have to open our lives and our homes to lots of other people--privacy barely exists. We have to trust lots of people with the care of our children --hard enough with typical children harder with those who cannot make their feelings known, who cannot make their wants known. Do people realise the effect on our lives of failures in any system
The highs this week have made me jump for joy!
Hope is now using a dynavox and has surprised the speech and language therapist with her ability. At last Hope will have a voice; yes I have no doubt she will play me up with her requests but to know she has control and choice in her life surpasses all else.
Paul, my 23 year old learning disabled son. plods on wirh his life ---ASSET on mon and college on wed (but only for 2 more weeks). On Wednesday he came home with a first aid certificate detailing all he can now do---I am very proud of you Paul.xxx